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Last week, I appeared at a "Savage Love Live" event at Radford University, in Radford, Va. The students submitted more questions than I could answer in two hours — and Radford students managed to stump me. Twice. I promised I would get answers for the two stumpers and answer as many of their other questions as I could this week.

When I sneeze, I ejaculate. Is this normal?

Yes, totally. This happens to all guys. That's why they make men's underwear out of cotton, dude.

Why do all the beautiful girls only go for guys who are assholes?

Why do all the guys only go for the beautiful girls who only go for assholes?

I really like this guy and I know he likes me, but he is so unapproachable! He always seems to be pissed off. How can I get his attention?

Someone who knows you're interested in him and who's genuinely interested in you but who affects an unapproachable, pissed-off demeanor is a game-playing douchebag. Surely there are some attractive guys on your campus — guys you like, guys who like you — who aren't grumpy, game-playing assholes. Maybe you could date one of them?

Is it normal for girls to orgasm from dry humping alone?

Many girls learn to masturbate by grinding their crotches/clits against something — a pillow, typically — and dry humping is an effective way to re-create that sensation, i.e., it provides the intense, direct clitoral stimulation she needs to get off.

Can you get an STI from a dead body?

This is one of the questions that stumped me. "As long as this isn't a thinly veiled necrophilia question, the answer is no," says Caitlin Doughty, a mortician, founder of the Order of the Good Death, and the star of the hilarious and informative "Ask a Mortician" YouTube video series. "When the AIDS epidemic first hit in the '80s, there were terrible stories about funeral homes that would charge more for bodies with HIV/AIDS, or tell the family the body was a threat and needed to be cremated immediately. Thankfully, that's now considered wildly unethical and incorrect. Unless you're an embalmer or coroner and dealing closely with fresh corpse fluids, there should be almost zero risk to you."

Is it OK to want to be single for 15 more years?

More and more people are delaying marriage or remaining single — you might want to read Hanna Rosin's The End of Men and Eric Klinenberg's Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone. It's generally OK to make your own choices and live your own life.

Should I not have sex with my best friend's babydaddy even though he was my boyfriend before he was hers and we were about to get back together before I found out my best friend was pregnant?

Yes, you should not.

Do you have any advice for non-openly-gay people at a school where gays are almost nonexistent?

Recognize that you're part of the problem. You don't come out because no one's out, and no one comes out because you're not out. My advice: If you're in a position to come out, come out. If you're not in a position to come out, make plans to get to a place where you can come out. In the meantime, refrain from whining about a problem that your choices and/or limitations contribute to creating.

Can you come out your butt?

Sure, but only if someone else came in it first — and no one should be coming in your butt without a condom on his dick.

How do you tell someone that they are bad at sex?

You don't. You tell someone that there are particular ways you like to be touched/kissed/fucked/bound/whatever. Hopefully this will lead to someone getting better at sex over a few months. If someone doesn't get better at sex in that time frame, then someone either is incapable of getting better at sex or doesn't care that you're unhappy, and it's time to dump someone.

Can you get a yeast infection from licking a yeast infection?

Another stumper, another guest expert: "Wet folds are a great place for yeast to grow," says Dr. Anna Kaminski, associate medical director for Planned Parenthood of the Great Northwest, "especially if other things are a little out of balance. For example, a woman might be more prone to yeast infections due to other things in the vagina — spermicide, blood, antibiotic-induced changes in vaginal pH balance or hormonal changes. But mouths are really good at keeping yeast in check. So it would be unusual for a person to get a yeast infection orally — unless you suffer from something that predisposes you to oral yeast infections, e.g., you are on antibiotics, you are immune-compromised, you have bad oral hygiene."

If a guy asks a girl if she wants to have anal sex, is he curious about gay sex?

No.

Why do straight guys like doggie-style so much?

Because they're gay.

I'm a guy who does not find guys physically attractive. Even so, I like to give and receive blowjobs with men. Does this mean anything about my sexual orientation?

Yes.

I've always considered myself a lesbian, but a few weeks ago, I got really drunk and slept with one of my male friends. Am I not a lesbian?

Female sexuality is a lot more fluid, as they say, and many lesbian-identified women have slept with men. Your sexuality identity — the label you choose to apply to yourself — should communicate the essential truth about your sexual interests and partner preferences. So you're free to identify as a lesbian even if you slip and fall on the occasional dick.

Who is your dream guy?

Janice from the Muppets with a dick.

OK, Radford, that was fun. Thanks for the invite and the great event!

Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage.

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